A while ago, I was reading Chuck Palahniuk’s AMA on Reddit, and came across a posting by a user thanking him for an incident which began when her teenage daughter had written a letter to him, her favorite author, for a class assignment. He had not only responded back to her letter, but also sent her daughter a box filled with “strange and/or wonderful” items, including a rosary bead necklace with her daughter’s name on it. To the user’s post, Palahniuk graciously responded,”You’re welcome. And the package probably says more about how brilliant your daughter’s letter was than how decent I am. And isn’t it fun to exceeeeeeed people’s expectations? I love that.”
As a recent graduate, I get asked by my younger friends what they should be doing with their lives. They believe (or want to believe) that there is some shortcut that’ll whoosh them to success. Skip all the crap, start making bank. To them, I’m an art major of average talent who decided to apply to law school, and magically got in. What’s the secret?
The Facebook status about how you’ve just been accepted/hired/engaged/married to your dream [blank];
The Linkedin update on your new “investment banking summer analyst” position at a Fortune 500 company;
The Instagram photo of your boyfriend making banana-butter waffles for you in the morning– “Best Boyfriend Ever!”;
The tweet informing everyone of the most recent culturally-relevant event, just before everyone else finds out;
Look familiar? Psychologists blame the emergence of FOMO, or the fear of missing out, on modern social media. We want to tell our friends about everything we’re doing, and if we don’t, we feel irritable or jealous when someone posts something more interesting than what we are doing at the moment.
I came across this list by David Ogilvy via Swiss Miss, and I think that it’s really a piece of timeless advice. Ogilvy, the original Mad Man, may have just been thinking of those who worked in the advertising industry, but I think that the idea of a “creative leader” has expanded over the years. Entrepreneurs, designers, teachers, writers, engineers, problem solvers– many of the qualities described above can apply to these professions.
How many times has someone told you this: “Everything’s going to be okay”? I think I’ve heard it at least thirty times in the past two weeks. These first few weeks of law school have been tough. I was becoming increasingly frustrated when I wasn’t able to finish reading all of the material before my classes, and in class, I was getting discouraged when I could’t digest the information as quickly and readily as some as my peers. Work began to pile higher and higher, and I just couldn’t keep up. “Everything’s going to be okay” was the last thing I wanted to hear from anyone, it always seemed so useless and empty and insincere. So I complained, I cried, I binge ate, I procrastinated, I whined to anyone who would listen– I was caught in a black storm cloud of negativity and self-doubt, and I didn’t know how to get out of it.
After class, I was walking towards the subway, and it was raining heavily. Everyone had an umbrella out, except for a young boy walking in front of me. I noticed him because he was walking by himself, without an umbrella or a backpack, and I wondered briefly what he was up to. Even as I was observing him, my mind was already on to other things, and I stopped paying attention to him.
“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Brault
There’s this local ice cream shop in my hometown that my family has been going to since I was young. Just tonight, I realized how it has slowly become a tradition of ours: sitting in the same wooden tables, eating the same flavors, and listening to the same old-timey live bands– especially after a long walk in the park on warm summer nights. It’s just a sweet (no pun intended) feeling to be able to do these kinds of things with your family now, especially when work and daily life becomes increasingly fast-paced and unforgivingly demanding. It’s important to cherish these moments, even if it means just stopping what you’re doing for a few seconds and letting the experience absorb in!
Hello everyone! It’s the end of the third week into law school, and amidst the whirlwind of topics I was learning and emotions I was feeling during this time, I was seized by a sudden urge to blog again. As you can see, the old blog has now been completely deleted. It was difficult for me to erase all of the posts that I had spent time and effort to write, but it also feels completely liberating to just be able to start afresh. A blank slate to write what I want, as I’m starting (currently hurtling through) the next chapter of my life.